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Feeling low and reasons it might happen

It is normal for our mood and energy to change throughout the day and from week to week. It is a normal response to things happening in our lives.

Sometimes it can be that life feels so overwhelming that we might go in to ‘freeze’ mode and attempt to avoid the things are stressful.

We also feel sad, disappointed and at a loss when we are missing something that previously gave us purpose and meaning.

We are running a survey of families who are in with contact us to find out how young people and their families are getting on during the COVID-19 pandemic. To find out more please visit the CAMHS COVID-19 survey page.
Often we can feel low if we are not able to live our lives in a way that fits with what is important to us.

Things that can keep low mood going for you

  • Unbalanced thoughts can keep us feeling down; for example, predicting the worst outcome and only seeing the negative
  • Daily activities being unbalanced or out of order. Things like not including joyful activities in your routine, or not including activities that give us purpose, and a sense of achievement
  • Avoiding things we should be doing
  • Using unhelpful coping strategies like drinking more alcohol, over-eating or sleeping too much
  • Feeling alone and not talking about how you might be feeling

Things that can keep low mood going for your child

  • Daily activities being unbalanced and not including enough achievement, fun and routine activities
  • Not having enough good quality, meaningful connections with others
  • Not talking about feelings which can make children feel alone, or that their feelings are not okay
  • Changes in routine or not having any daily routine
  • Ruminating about things they cannot control
Your own self-care and mood is important; the best thing you can do is work on improving your own mood. You can follow the tips below but also reach out to others for support for yourself.

  • Play the Gratitude game each day; share three things that you are grateful for. Ask your children to do the same.
  • Keep a structured routine at home. Bear in mind that it will take a while for you and your children to adapt so keep going with it
  • Continue living your life in line with your values. If faith is important to you, find a way to continue to practice this. If staying fit and healthy is important to you, find ways to keep doing this
  • Accept and name your children’s feelings. You can start by saying, ‘I can see you’re feeling lost and disappointed about not being with your friends’
  • Encourage ways of connecting with others; video calls, eating together, or praying with others. Remember that some children will want, or need some alone time too
  • Find ways to have fun! It’s so important to have moments of joy and laughter. You could try baking, making a video together, playing games, etc
  • Encourage a daily walk, but make sure you follow government guidelines about social distancing